Think about our ancestors, the cavemen and cavewomen. The men ventured out to hunt and gather food, honing their physical and logical skills to survive. Meanwhile, the women stayed home, caring for the children, cooking, and engaging with other women from their tribe. In this way, women developed their social and emotional skills to create a safe and supportive environment. Now, let’s fast forward to today and consider why your girlfriend might be acting dramatic.
“Why can’t she use those ‘social skills’ with me instead of creating drama every day?!”
This might be the question you’re asking yourself now. As a psychologist and a female, I’m here to shed some light on the matter.
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1. Women crave to challenge their social skills
Just as men have natural instincts to practice their physical and logical abilities, women have an innate need to challenge their verbal and emotional skills. This doesn’t mean that women intentionally create drama. Rather, we tend to notice more details in interpersonal relationships because it’s something we’ve been practicing for thousands of years. We enjoy solving small interpersonal problems in creative ways as it makes our relationships feel challenging, progressive, and meaningful. It’s through these challenges that we feel more attached and invested.
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2. Women need a partner who can protect them
Women naturally and subconsciously feel insecure about surviving alone in the world. That’s why we are attracted to confident and strong partners who make us feel safe and protected. By creating drama, women test their partners to ensure they truly care and can be relied upon. Drama serves as a way for a woman to seek reassurance that you still have feelings for her and will stand by her side during difficult times. In fact, a study conducted by Harvard Medical School found that women interpret their partners’ unhappiness as a sign of emotional investment and engagement in the relationship, making them feel pleased.
3. Women need more of your attention
There are two possibilities here:
- You are giving her enough attention, but she is not recognizing it.
- You are not giving her enough attention.
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A woman’s need for more attention may stem from her natural insecurity and desire to have someone caring for and reassuring her. Furthermore, she views relationships as something that requires constant effort, like watering plants daily. If she perceives that you’re not putting in enough effort, real or imagined, she will put you through tests.
Thus, the good news is:
If a woman creates drama, it’s not because she wants to push you away, but because she wants to keep you!
So, you’re not failing to make her happy, and she isn’t attacking you. In fact, she wants both of you to commit to the relationship. While criticizing, crying, or shouting aren’t ideal forms of communication, understanding this behavior is the first step towards addressing and improving it.
Remember, relationships can be challenging, but with understanding and effort, you can build a strong and satisfying connection.
Katarina Milivojević
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