The Italian finds me on the second day. Most of the men who like my profile don’t stand out in any particular way. Most are not very attractive, either, but the Italian has thick brown hair and arched eyebrows that make him look mischievous and, at times, malevolent. He says that he’s thirty-four years old and tall—a staggering six feet five. He says that he has a Ph.D. in engineering and that he’s a gentle dom. I don’t know what “gentle dom” means, exactly, but it sounds appealing. “Consent is key,” he writes, quoting the app’s terms of service.
The app prompts users to list their desires. The Italian puts, among other things, “friendship,” “foreplay,” “submissive,” and “latex.” This last point, the latex, feels naughty and intriguing. The Italian adds that he’s looking for a “creative and open-minded girl, interested in exploring.” Shortly after we start chatting, I tell the Italian that using the word “girl” in his profile is infantilizing to women—sort of gross, even—especially for someone like me, a woman who is nearly fifty.
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It’s been three months since I went on some dates with a South American a few years my junior. Before that, I went through an epic dry spell—more than ten years without sex or even dating. My ex-husband, Paul, and I separated in 2013. After discovering that he had immediately started dating another woman—I found her things in the bathroom I used to claim as my own—I went to a dark place. Paul had cheated on me three years prior, and seeing the woman’s toiletries triggered memories of that time. Between 2014 and 2020, I drank too much and smoked too much. I ate too much and got very fat, probably as a way to assuage my emotional agony, and to keep myself from ever liking, or being liked by, another man who might hurt me that way again.
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On March 14, 2020, I move to Los Angeles for a job, and to be closer to my parents. I become friendly with a woman who lives nearby, an Australian screenwriter named Jay. There’s not much to do—everything is closed during COVID—so we go on hikes in Griffith Park, and we cry a lot because we are depressed. About the pandemic. About our careers. Jay feels like a failure because she isn’t getting outside interest in any of her projects; my new job is not what I thought it would be, and it’s making me miserable.
Sometimes I don’t know if I am going to survive this depression; I can’t see a way out of it, and I dread the nighttime, when my mood takes a turn for the worse. I look for signs that I will be O.K. The cross on the hillside next to the 101. (I’m not religious.) A small owl on a dirt path in the gloaming of an autumn evening, its eyes illuminated by my headlamp. One minute it’s there, the next it’s not. My friend Nancy and I go looking for information online as to what the owl may symbolize. I don’t recall what we find, but I remember being disappointed in the answer.
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Eventually I get a bit better. Then a bit more. By late 2021, I am feeling pretty much back to normal, and that’s when one of Paul’s ex-girlfriends calls to tell me that he is dead. His heart had failed him. He was found on Christmas Day in his apartment by one of his best friends, a man I’ve never met or even heard of. It has been seven years since we spoke. Seven years since the divorce. I am devastated but also weirdly relieved: it feels as if an enormous weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It’s not that I don’t cry—I do, in big, heaving sobs—but the tears are cleansing, and the sobs are freeing in a way that I am able to describe but not fully explain.
A few weeks into the New Year, Jay suggests that I sign up for a dating app. I tear up. “I’m scared,” I tell her. She presses me on the idea. “What if we create a profile together?” she asks. We find some pictures on my phone—nothing special, and nothing that shows my body—and upload them to profiles on Bumble and Hinge.
Within a day I have a few dozen “likes,” including one from the South American. We go out on a few dates; it doesn’t work out. But being touched by him ignited something deep inside me. It had been so, so long.
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I hear about the app, Feeld, from a friend and former colleague. When I sign up, it asks me for my birthday, my sexuality, and a list of my desires and interests. Under “Desires,” I choose “foreplay,” “casual,” “sensual,” and “dates.” Under “Interests,” I put “discovery,” “creativity,” “words,” “actions,” “honesty,” “communication,” “trust,” “men,” and “sex.”
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I upload a few photos and arrange them into an order that I hope will draw men in. The first photo is a selfie I take while sitting at my dining table. My hair is pulled back in its usual bun and I’ve got one of my elbows on the table, with my cheek resting on my wrist. There is the slightest smile on my face and my eyes are big and knowing, sexy but (hopefully) not trying too hard. I think about an imaginary name. I choose Noa, which I think is beautiful.
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The Italian uses the name Luca on his profile. Later he will insist that it’s his real name, but I am never totally convinced that he’s telling the truth.
His profile pictures are alluring yet chaste. The first photo shows him with his hand on his chin, as if lost in thought, but also making his bottom lip pucker. In another, he’s in shorts and a T-shirt, sleeves rolled up to expose his arms, in what I’m certain is Joshua Tree National Park. The sexiest photo is the last one in the series. The Italian stands in front of a barbell, shirtless, in what I assume is a CrossFit gym, his left arm raised to his forehead, wiping sweat from his brow. His body is lean, muscled, and long. I “heart” him back.
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The Italian is the first to send a message. I do not remember what I say in response, but I remember how I feel: sexy, smart, intriguing. We banter—he can’t believe I’m forty-eight, he says. I look at least ten years younger. I thank him and wonder, with no small amount of self-loathing, whether he has a thing for older women, especially chubby ones who haven’t got laid in a decade.
The Italian tells me that he’s an engineer at a Silicon Valley tech company. The combination of his educational achievements, high-profile employment, and looks seems a little too good to be true. I ask him to give me more information about his job, expecting that he’ll say something vague or something that sounds “sexy.” Instead, he tells me exactly what he and his team are focussed on, finding ways to reduce energy consumption. This amount of specificity is surprising to me. Later, we talk about cars, and he seems surprised, too, when I make it clear that I know the difference between an engine and a motor.
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